Anal sex is a thing. It’s here and it’s happening.

There is so much taboo around anal sex and even just talking about is uncomfortable. Still as part of SRHR, we are here to learn about anal intercourse, what works and what doesn’t, how it’s done, the health risks associated with it and the many precautions one can take.

Like most sexual activities, anal sex carries the risk of passing on sexually transmitted infections from one person to another. It’s considered the riskiest form of sexual activity due to the many health risks associated with it. Still, anal sex is extremely pleasurable since the anus is made of up nerve endings thus making it extremely sensitive.


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There is fingering, also known as Postillionage which means putting a finger inside your partner’s anus.

There is the use of sex toys like “butt plugs”, “dildos” and “vibrators” which widen the anal opening thus creating a sensation of fullness

There is rimming where oral contact is involved to stimulate the anal nerve endings.

Also, there is fisting where one puts a hand inside the anus.




One major risk of having anal intercourse is that the tissue inside the anus is not as well protected as the skin outside. There are no external tissue that have layers of dead cells inside the anus to act as a protective barrier against infection.

This lack of natural protection  leaves it vulnerable to tear thus leading to the spread of infections.

The anus also lacks natural lubrication like a vagina. Constant penetration or rough sex can tear the tissue inside the anus, allowing bacteria and viruses to enter the body. This puts one at a risk of spreading sexually transmitted infections like HIV.

Also, some infections caused by bacteria can be passed on through anal sex, such as hepatitis A or E. coli.

Exposure to HPV (Human Papiloma Virus) may also lead to the development of anal warts and anal cancer.

Lubricants can help but they don’t prevent tearing from happening.

Also, repetitive anal sex may lead to weakening of the anal sphincter muscle therefore making it difficult to hold in feces until you can access a washroom.

 However, Kegel exercises will help strengthen the sphincter muscle and if possible, prevent this problem or correct it.





The anus is made to keep fecal matter. This makes it full of germs. Merely wiping the anus with tissue or wet wipes won’t remove dirt completely so if possible, you must wash the area thoroughly with water or perform an enema.

Wrap it up.

Also, many folds exist inside the anus so in as much as you do an enema, you must always use a condom everytime you have sex.

Lubricants. Lubricants. Lubricants.

Always use a lubricant everytime you are having sex to avoid tear or ripping of the anal tissue.

Keep your sex toys clean.

If you use sex toys during anal intercourse, make sure you disinfect by either boiling them in water or soaking in disinfectant to avoid the transmission of germs and STIs from one user to another.





You have taken all the precautions necessary and you are ready to get down with yourself or your significant other depending on who you choose to have sex with. That means that you have to make anal sex as enjoyable as possible for the two of you  for yourself.

How do you achieve all this?


Know how your anus works.

Get to know what is where and what should and should not be done to your anus.

Also, be clear about your boundaries. Let your partner know what you can and you can’t do beforehand to avoid misunderstandings.


When two consenting partner agree to have sex, they make it a lifetime experience. When your partner says “No” during sex, respect their wishes.

Remember, don’t be a rapist.

Reduce the pain.

Lube up and make sure you are as comfortable as possible. Pressure or friction against the sphincter muscle may lead to tear or ripping.


Cleanliness is a must and non debatable for the two of you if you want to enjoy sex. Dirt will always make you not at ease with yourself thus taking a toll on your self esteem.

Dispel myths.

Lastly, get rid of the many myths around anal intercourse and concentrate on having the time of your life. Myths holds us back. They limit our productivity and still our growth. Be yourself and have an open mind.

Remember, some people seem to know no bounds when it comes to inserting foreign objects in their anus. It’s extremely risky to insert  objects that can break into the anus since this may result into serious injuries.

If you do lose anything inside your anus, seek medical emergency services immediately however embarrassed you might be.

Otherwise, enjoy your eerr… Anal.

© Nyar Afrika 2018

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